Dear Dr. Romance: Is He Cheating on Me?

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Dear Dr. Romance: Is He Cheating on Me?
Don't waste your time hanging on to a guy who won't be honest or commit.

Dear Dr. Romance:

Is he cheating on me? Or am I just being paranoid? Me and my boyfriend have been together for 15 months now. A couple of weeks ago we broke up and then got back together after a week. When we broke up he kept texting me, asking “Are you happy?” and stuff.

We broke up because he lied to me: he told me he was not going out on that Saturday night; but he did, and didn’t come home for the whole night. I got mad and called one of his friends. As a result we broke up because he said I don’t TRUST him.

After talking, we decided give it one last chance, so we got back together. Yesterday he was gone a long time. I don’t know, but I feel like he is seeing someone else. The thing is I don’t have any evidence and he keeps telling me I am his only one! What should I do? Should I just trust him? Please help!!!!!!

Dear Reader:

Whether or not he has someone else, something is definitely going on. Maybe he has a drug or gambling problem instead of another woman. No, don't just trust him. Tell him his behavior is unacceptable and you can't be in a relationship with him until he grows up. Then break up, and mean it. If he wants to get back together, set some rules for behavior; and if he breaks them, forget him. Don't waste your time hanging on to a guy who won't be honest or commit. That will never work, and you're asking for a lifetime of heartbreak. "Stupid Cupid" explains what you and your boyfriend should be able to discuss in order to build a working relationship. The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again shows you how to develop a relationship from dating to making a commitment.

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