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Dear Dr. Romance: Do I Surprise Her With A Gift?

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You can't force a relationship by declaring your love.

Dear Dr. Romance:

I know I feel strongly about a certain someone. Do I surprise her with a gift or e-mail her with my recent feelings through a tough time?


Dear Reader:

It sounds like you're way ahead of yourself and her. I think a gift would be completely out of line at this point. If she's responded well, have you had a date yet? Asked her out for coffee? You're right to be scared about overdoing it. You can't force a relationship by declaring your love. Save that for after you've dated for a while. Take it one step at a time. If you haven't asked her out, just ask her. If you've been dating for a while, ask her how she feels about commitment and relationships. "Guidelines for Successful Dating" will help you be successful with this woman or another. The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again can help you with these questions.

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