Getting Divorced? 2 Tips to Help You Cope After a Long Marriage

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Getting Divorced? 2 Tips to Help You Cope After a Long Marriage
Two Must Know Tips If You're A Boomer Facing Divorce

Two Must Know Tips If You're A Boomer Facing Divorce

Divorce is a shock to anyone, but especially older married couples, who may have been together for a long time. You're likely to be in shock for quite a while, feel numb and lost, and then have delayed grief. Here are two tips to help if you're a Baby Boomer or beyond, and you're getting divorced after a long marriage.

1. Get emotional support.
Make sure you get support or counseling to help you with this overwhelming loss. Don't be surprised if intense grief lasts for a few years. The first year is the most difficult, as you pass each milestone on the calendar, like your first holidays single, or others.

2. Get a new life.
After that, you slowly begin to develop a new life, and your loss becomes more manageable. Eventually, you will cherish your fond memories but be ready for something new in your life.

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