Solving the Secrets of Your Man


Solving the Secrets of Your Man
What if you could understand the frustrating parts of your man and get him to be the lover you need?

2. Difference: Women are Task Masters and Men are Result Makers.  Women tend to focus on tasks and are motivated to get them done in order to feel peace and quiet within them.  Men are less motivated by doing a task then they are motivated by a result they want.  Men need to be clear that a task is going to make his wife happy or make him happy or accomplish something he seeks, for him to be motivated. If his wife only spouts tasks, fails to show him her appreciation or happiness, but instead moves on to the next task he needs to do, she will deny him the one thing he needs to be motivated.
Clues for Women: Men do not see all that you see that needs to be done and are emasculated and demotivated by criticism and demands. Place your eyes on what he is doing that you appreciate and what he can do to help you - instead of on all he is doing wrong.  Be specific and loving in your request.  As he helps – share your appreciation and let him feel your happiness.  This is the result that will motivate and nourish him. He wants to make you happy – help him be successful!
Clues for Men: Understand that tasks are keeping her from joy and pleasure but her awareness of that might be eclipsed by the screaming of tasks.  Find out how you can help and support her.

3. Difference: Women tend to have a weak relationship to body vs. men who tend to have a strong relationship to body.  No matter how stressed men are they will feel when they are hungry, tired, horny, in need of exercise/sport, or in need of boy time.  They are more likely to listen to these cues and do something about it.  Women on the other hand when they are stressed or weighted down by their ‘to do list’ are more likely to ignore their body cues for food, rest, exercise, play, affection, sex. In fact, women are likely to push themselves to a point that they are so exhausted they begin to get cranky with everyone else, blaming others for the state she has gotten herself in.  Rather than see the choices she has, she is likely to get angry someone did not step in and lighten her load.
Clues for Women: Learn from your man to notice and take care of your body.  Keep pleasure, nourishment, rest and fun on your calendar.  Remember the airline oxygen mask!  You cannot help others until you are healthy yourself!
Clues for Men: Remember that she forgets about herself – her rest, her pleasure, her body, her happiness.  Invite her to a nice dinner and take care of all logistics (babysitter?); help her complete a few tasks in the evening and invite her to bed so you can make love TO HER in the way she can feel your love and her pleasure; help her to remember to take time for herself and help her with the logistics of that, tell her she is beautiful and what you love and appreciate about her.

More from YourTango: Why Do So Many Religions Shame Sex? 12 Ways To Get Free

Share this with someone you love (or even like a lot)!

Let's make it
FB official
Recent Expert Posts

Put Your Relationship on a Diet Free of Blame and Criticism

Replace the blame and criticism in your relationship with heartfelt gratitude and appreciations.


Why You'll Never Meet The Right Partner

Give up the search - and figure out how to actually create love instead.

Trouble In Paradise

The Honeymoon Is Over

Making marriage work post honeymoon phase

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no time…

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>