She replied, "Zero!"
I said, "You aren’t thinking of leaving him, are you?" She smiled and walked out the door; I never heard from Alice again.
Worst-case scenarios don’t always look as good as Alice’s did to her, but it’s usually not as bad as we fear. Even if it’s what most people consider the worst outcome, death which is the worst case for athletes such as freestyle mogul skiers, downhill skiers and car racers, you must come to peace with the worst case if you want to be successful. It’s true in sales, building a business, marriage, everything.
If you worry and focus on your worst-case scenario, then subconsciously that’s what you attract. Fear takes you out of the present moment, distorts your thoughts and changes your actions. And it focuses you on creating what you fear, what you don’t want. It’s time to come to peace with your worst case.
Step 5: Do a reality check.
Now that you identified and are beginning to accept your worst-case scenario, what’s the probability of it happening? Accept your worst-case scenario like Alice did, and then put your worst case aside without emotion. Don’t empower it by focusing on it. Instead, focus on what you want, as if you already have it, to strengthen that neuronetwork in your brain!
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This article was originally published at Dr. TC North
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