Lastly, especially in important conversations, stay calm. Everyone listens better when they are in a good mood. Anger escalations increase the odds that both of you will end up in a zero-listening narcissism trap.
The bottom line? If you can see it and name it, the odds zoom upward that you will be able to figure out how to deal with narcissism effectively.
That's important because many of the most lovable and admirable guys in this world tend toward narcissistic habits. No need to give up on them. Just get savvy.
Susan Heitler, PhD, a graduate of Harvard, is a Denver clinical psychologist who specializes in treatment of relationship difficulties, anger, narcissism and bpd. Her website poweroftwomarriage.com offers at-home interactive exercises for overcoming relationship difficulties.