If you and your loved one have become distant, the strength of your connection may become fragile. The distance may come from not sharing enough positive and private time together, from having too little fun shared activities, insufficient sexual connecting, old resentments or even too much commute or travel time by one partner.
If your love partnership includes too many unpleasant negative interactions like angry explosions, criticism or controlling behavior from one or both partners, one or both of you are likely to back off from closeness. Then also the risk of an affair increases.
7. What personality types are at highest risk for infidelity?
While all the above conditions increase infidelity risk, certain types of personalities also are more prone to cheating than others. Narcissists, that is, folks who live their life in an “it’s all about me” mode, tend to be prime victims of the cheating impulse. They are easily drawn to partners who flatter them by showering with them affection or addressing seductive attention their way. They also may enjoy showing their prowess at chasing and conquering their prey. And they may be more prone to focus on what feels good to them to the exclusion of thinking about the impact their affair would have on their partner.
Folks who live their lives with minimal adherence to a moral code also are at increased risk for sexual cheating. If “the rules don’t apply to me” is their mantra, sexual monogamy is likely to be one of the rules that gets ignored. By contrast, strong religious moorings strengthen resistance to sexual temptations.
Lastly, folks who generally present themselves in a seductive manner may not intend to put themselves on a road to infidelity, and yet may be inadvertently giving forth “I’m available” signals that sooner or later get them in trouble. Beware of low necklines and high hem lines.
8. What family of origin factors also increase infidelity risk?
When it comes to infidelity, what your folks did makes a huge difference in your risk rating. The son of a man who cheated on his wife has a higher risk of doing the same than the son of a man who remained faithful. If a cheating dad cheated repeatedly, normalizing that behavior, the risks rise yet again for the adult son. The same is likely to be true for women, though the data on this phenomenon has been less available.
9. What you can do toward infidelity prevention?