14 Spontaneous Ways To Make Your Sex Life Even SAUCIER

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14 Spontaneous Ways To Make Your Sex Life Even SAUCIER
Challenge #14: Be in rare form! Spontaneity is a key ingredient to exciting sex.

You and your partner already have toe-curling, sheets-grabbing lip-biting sex nearly every day. So how can you make it even hotter? Good question. Whether you're pretending to meet each other for the first time or you're roleplaying as your naughtier, sexier persona, heating things up between the two of you has never been easier. Don't believe us? Check out these suggestions for infusing your relationship with sexy spontaneity:

1. Entice your partner with a list of your biggest turn-ons. Send your partner an email listing some of the sure-fire ways to get you in the mood ... and then promise him a pay-off. (And trust us, he'll be drooling.) 


2. Let him chase you. Give him a look as if you don't recognize each other, and introduce yourself by saying, "I don't believe we've met ... " Play a little hard to get, letting him know that you're not the type to fool around too quickly. Give him hints that you find him very attractive and even though you've never done this before so quickly, you just can't seem to help yourself. Once he starts kissing you, tell him that you really shouldn't, it's getting late, you need to be getting home, you're not that type of girl ... but, of course, make it obvious from your actions that you don't want him to stop. Keep playing this kind of push-pull game until he's just ravenous with desire, when you finally give in because you are just too attracted to him not too. Men love the chase and giving him the chance to re-live the hunt will really get his testosterone flowing. 

3. Get your sweat on. Exercise before you enter the bedroom to get that blood flow going. A hot shower (focused especially on your sexual parts) can jumpstart those juices. 

4. Leave a sexy message on your partner's voicemail. There is a service called Slydial that will connect you straight to someone's voicemail without the phone ringing. Pretend to be someone else. Maybe your his seductive French maid and you can't wait to tickle him with your feather duster ... or maybe you're a Russian KGB agent and need to interrogate him about some international matters of love. 

5. "Dessert, anyone?" Take a photo of a can of whipped cream and send it to your partner with a teasing note that it's a treat for later tonight. 

6. Surprise him and do something completely out of character. If you're usually a bit prim and proper, excuse yourself during a black-tie event, head for the ladies' room, remove your lace panties and sneakily tuck them into his jacket pocket. The intrigue, along with knowing that you're exposed, may make him decide to leave early (or book a hotel room upstairs). 

7. Dress in your sexiest, most sensual lingerie. The lights may be off, but what you wear (or don't wear!) still makes a difference in how sexy you feel. In other words: that granny nightgown might be better off left in your bottom drawer. 

8. ... And meet him in nothing but that. Greet him at the door wearing nothing but your hottest lingerie. If you're concerned about the neighbors seeing you, wear an overcoat or bathrobe and let it drop to the floor as soon as he shuts the door. It will be a wonderful surprise for him and he won't be able to keep his hands off you. 

9. Step into a pair of your highest heels. Slip on some stilettos - they make your legs look longer and make you feel feminine and sexy (not to mention, guys love it.) 

10. Hop in the shower for some slippery fun. The rules? Wash every inch each other, skin to skin. What guy isn't responsive to having you lovingly caress him? And what woman doesn't love feeling her man's hands on her body? Mix in warm water, lots of steam, lavender-scented shower gel and pumpkin-scented candles (two smells shown to increase penile blood flow) and the rest should follow naturally. 

11. Play some sensual music to set the mood. Don't have any ideas? Did you know that a study by Spotify found that the number one favorite music for arousing sexual feelings was the soundtrack from Dirty Dancing

12. Sound-proof your room (so you can be louder). Buy bean bags to stuff under the door, in the window and any other corners where sounds sneak through.

13. Give him a blindfolded rubdown. Blindfold him and subject him to 30 minutes of pure pleasure. Warm your hands with massage oil and run your fingers over his face, down his chest and abs until you work your way down to between his legs. Make it a game: how long can you hold out before he reaches for you? Can he last the full half hour? (We doubt it.) You might also inspire him to be your personal masseuse. Happy endings, anyone? 

14. Remember what turned you on about him in the first place. When you have a few quiet moments, take that time to remind yourself of what you found incredibly sexy about him early on in your relationship. Was it his strong arms, his walk or the way he smelled? Was it his gorgeous eyes or the fact that he's so handy with tools (and looked oh-so good in his tool belt)? Write down 3 to 5 of them on an index card and read it to yourself every day. The next time the two of you begin to be intimate, run through these in your mind. This will bring you into the moment, he'll notice the change in you and you'll both feel more connected. 

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Marla Martenson


Marla Martenson, matchmaker & author of Diary of a Beverly Hills Matchmaker

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