Why You Should Keep Your Affair To Yourself

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Why You Should Keep Your Affair To Yourself [EXPERT]
Telling your spouse that you cheated may not be the best idea after all.

Before marriage and life experience, I used to think if my man ever had an affair we'd be finished. Period. Everything was black and white and simple. I now know from both personal and professional experience that an affair can be the best thing for a relationship, but usually when the spouse (even if it's you) doesn't know everything. Unless the result was a child or a communicable disease, there's usually no need for him or her to know. 10 Signs Your Spouse Is Really A Stranger

Of course, if you're going to work on the relationship, the affair must have stopped completely. It's impossible to put 100% into the marriage when some of the emotional energy is being spent elsewhere.  11 Myths And Facts About Cheating

 

The key is to use what you've learned about your needs and wants and desires and bring it back into the marriage. If you don't want to put the energy into the marriage, then divorce is an option. But maybe it's best to concentrate and work on what you'd like more of in your current relationship and take full responsibility for receiving it. 3 Dating Mistakes You Probably Make

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Dr. Shoshana Bennett, Ph.D.

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