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2 Surprising Reasons Why You're STILL Single

Couple flirting.

If you want to be in a happy relationship, you've got to deal with these 2 blocks.

Whether you think you’re single by conscious choice or you feel like something’s wrong with you, there are basically two reasons why you’re still single.  It all boils down to what’s in your subconscious mind.

Your subconscious mind stores of all of your experiences, thoughts, beliefs and feelings.  It’s separated from the conscious mind by a veil of unconsciousness.  This means that, unless you use applied kinesiology, you have no idea what’s in your subconscious mind.

But, your life will give you clues as to which subconscious beliefs you hold.  Chances are, if you’re single but you'd rather not be single, there are some beliefs in your subconscious mind that are blocking you from finding the right person for you.

Reason #1: Common Subconscious Blocks about Yourself.

  • I have a fear of intimacy.
  • If I get into a relationship with someone, they will leave me.
  • I’m not tall/thin/smart/good enough.

These are just 3 of the many potential subconscious beliefs that could block you from finding the right partner.  It doesn’t matter how good you look in person or online.

Even successful people can have insecurities.  You either squash them out of your awareness or you get help for them.

Unfortunately, most therapies and coaching programs work only on a conscious level.  You’ll see some results, but more often than not, things may look different on the outside and still be the same on the inside.

Reason #2: Common Subconscious Blocks about Others.

  • The men/women I'm attracted to are not attracted to me.
  • Men/Women can’t be trusted.
  • There are no good men/women left.

These are just 3 of the many potential subconscious beliefs we hold about relationships, men, women, commitment, intimacy, love, marriage, etc.

We perceive our lives through the filter of our beliefs.  You will perceive your life in a way that validates your beliefs.

For example, if you believe that men can’t be trusted, you’ll either stay single or get involved with a man who ends up proving you right.

How to Remove These Blocks

It’s easier to change beliefs than you think.  Using PSYCH-K®, we can change beliefs effortlessly within minutes.

People spend years in therapy and thousands of dollars to make changes in their lives.  Unfortunately, some people have a hard time changing the way they think and behave despite this.

PSYCH-K® uses a sensory-based language to communicate with the subconscious mind to change beliefs, including those associated with unhappiness, difficult relationships, poor health, low self-esteem, and career problems.

It goes beyond positive affirmations and positive thinking to actually installing new beliefs into your subconscious mind.  Let goof beliefs that create self-doubt, procrastination, depression and anxiety and replace them with beliefs that create confidence, motivation, happiness and peace.

To learn more about possible subconscious beliefs you may or may not have in different areas of your life, get your free copy of the Subconscious Beliefs Quiz now.

Sandra Thébaud, PhD is a Transformation Specialist who works with people committed to their personal growth to achieve the life they want.  Contact Sandra at today and request a free 15 minute consultation.


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