Now you begin to understand that all the romantic yearning in your head, all the dreams of ‘a happy forever after’ with your prince charming are a distraction, a dangerous poison because they tell you to look for love where you cannot possibly find it. But who wants to have their illusions destroyed? Only those who are seeking a deeper truth.
All true and unconditional love that has ever been experienced by anyone
has arisen from inside!
This inner impulse to love usually is triggered by an external object, a lover for instance. Then to maintain it and deepen it is up to you. Once you have this internal focus you will not be so prone to want to control and manipulate your lover. Instead you may become sensitive to what awakens that love in you and what doesn’t.
Worldly love is nothing more than the attempt to satisfy your desires. But now divine love begins to emerge in your heart. The energy of this love does not flow outward into the world but toward God (the God of your understanding) in you. There is always an unending supply of this love in your heart. The question is only this: do you know how to drink from this internal Source?
When your love has awakened on this new level you maintain your traditional roles as lover, spouse, parent or child, but you will begin to sense that you are loving God through your different relationships. When that vision develops you can begin to see that human love is not separate from Divine love because human beings are the channels through which this higher love is expressed.
When you begin to fill your mind with uplifting thoughts generated by spiritual practice—and at the same time decrease the old pain and negative conditioning of your mind, then you are developing your capacity for goodness, magnanimity, generosity and unconditional love. Now you begin to be able and qualified to have the kind of relationship you have been dreaming about.
With this fundamental change of realizing the hopelessness of trying to grasp love from external objects and instead developing your inner capacity to love for the sake of love, you begin to be able to taste more subtle spiritual feelings. As you explore and practice this inner capacity for sublime love, it will grow surprisingly quickly and become a powerful and irresistible force.
Now, instead of hoping for the perfect lover to come to you, you are becoming that perfect lover instead. As you become capable of giving to you and others the love you always hungered to receive, your loving becomes independent, free and rich beyond your wildest dreams, and eventually it becomes universal.
This great and sublime capacity in you rests on a secret. It is the realization that lover and beloved are one. This is the end of fear and the secret of Mahavidya, the great wisdom or revelation of oneness.