This is the single greatest problem I see with clients: not enough together time that is dedicated to just being present as a couple. I have couples identify it as “us time”. Schedule it, book it and use it. Make that clichéd weekly sex date. Set up alone time for you as a couple. Even if you just are together without anything sexual in the cards, let this special uninterrupted time take you wherever it goes. This works.
#6: Focus on your partner.
Make special time to send your energy and put your exclusive attention on your partner. This means you aren’t both watching a movie, having dinner, discussing the kids’ report card, or reviewing the list of things on your weekend agenda. Garage clean-up duties or who got the tab on groceries last time aren’t romantic or sexy. Put your mind, your eyes and your emotions on your mate and watch how fast she/he lights up.
#7: Book a telephone appointment.
If this all fails, email or telephone me to book an appointment to help you two sort out what’s blocking you. One expert said, most women stop wanting sex due to profound disappointment. So, know that your partner needs to be heard, to be touched, to be respected, to feel loved. Get with the program to “get some”.
Love and light,
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*The Art of Sex Coaching: Expanding Your Practice (pp. 163-164)