This conveniently illustrates the three rules for not getting an erection when you want one:
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For most men, there’s actually a fourth rule:
* Have sex with someone you don’t like, you’re not attracted to, or you’re angry with
Sam wondered if he had “erectile dysfunction,” and if a drug would help. “Getting a stomachache from eating at McDonald’s three times a day for a month isn’t a stomach dysfunction, it’s the way your system is built,” I replied. “Not getting an erection when your penis doesn’t get sufficient stimulation isn’t erectile dysfunction—it’s the way your system is built.”
Sam sighed. “I guess you’re right,” he said. “But I wish this whole sex thing were easier.” I sympathized with Sam, as I do with all people who say this. And I replied as I often do: “Sam, sex would be easier if you didn’t make it so complicated.”
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Dr. Marty Klein is a marriage counselor and sex therapist with 30 years experience. His latest book is SEXUAL INTELLIGENCE: What We Really Want From Sex, and How to Get It. Dr. Klein’s blog, newsletter and more at www.MartyKlein.com.