I almost pulled the plug on my 30-day Orgasmic Yoga journey on day 16. This is what happened:
"Day 16 of Orgasmic Yoga. Yesterday was day 15, so I was halfway through. I posted a picture of me holding this toy on my Facebook account, so as to encourage more people to follow me on this journey. I got an email on my Facebook account. This guy had attended one of my public events previously, and he made some cheeky sleezy kind of comments. I just ignored him. He had been emailing me on Facebook but hadn't done so in about a year. Yesterday, he wrote me an email saying, "How about a private demo with your vibrator? Wink. Wink."
This was really uncalled for and some people would say I deserve it and I should have known better; however, I found myself going into shock, into anger, and into shutdown. I emailed him back saying that his joke was not appreciated, it was not funny, and I thought about it. I said, why? Why do I have to put up with this kind of treatment all the time? In fact, I almost just decided to cancel the entire Orgasmic Yoga journey, because people who don't really understand my intention would just think I'm a joke.
The reason I am doing this is because I want to encourage more people to begin talking about sex in positive ways, more openly. I also want to be able to facilitate learning through me and my life experiences. Because if nobody is talking about masturbation, or how they are feeling pleasure, then when is the change going to happen?
And even in the media here in Singapore, a lot of the information is being censored. Sex toys are pixelated so that you can hardly see what is it. If I don't put out messages that are different, that will encourage more of a conversation going on, then when is change going to happen? When I remembered my intention behind running this project, I decided to persevere and continue.
What is Orgasmic Yoga?
Orgasmic Yoga involves pleasurable, intimate and transformative practices. When practiced regularly over time, Orgasmic Yoga can change your life. The practice sessions involve breathing, savoring, sound, movement, touch, placement of attention, and awareness of intention. Erotic practice sessions weave together the heart and genitals. This alone is a profound reason to commit to practice. Orgasmic Yoga often produces a state of arousal that is free of fantasy, unfinished emotional business, religious dogma, cultural caveats and habitual sexual behaviors. In this erotic trance state, an individual becomes aware of the body as a source of wisdom, happiness and freedom.
Dr Martha Tara Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia and beyond. For more, visit www.ErosCoaching.com.
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