All your crap totally un-sexy. Here's why you need to clean up your act.
When I confided in my friends about my recent financial woes, the immediate suggestion I received was if to clear the clutter in my house.
"Make room for more good things to come", they said. "Don't be a hoarder. It's not sexy."
Resistant to clearing the hundred or so books lying on the floor of my bedroom, I borrowed the book Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui instead. (Yes, that's another manifestation of procrastination.)
Moments into the book, I was confounded by the many reasons why I need to clear out pronto! Clutter can:
- Make you feel tired and lethargic. Clearing clutter frees up the energy in your home and releases new vitality in your body.
- Keep you in the past. When all your available space is filled with clutter, there is no room for anything new to come into your life.
- Congest your body. The energy of your home can get congested and so does your body.
- Affect your body weight. Both body fat and clutter are forms of self-protection.
- Confuse you. It is difficult to have clarity about what you are doing in your life.
- Affect the way people treat you. People treat you the way you treat yourself. If you value yourself and look after yourself, people will treat you well.
- Make you procrastinate. You will tend to put off things as clutter stagnates your energy, making it difficult to get yourself to do anything.
- Cause disharmony. Clutter is a major cause of arguments.
- Make you feel ashamed. You may hesitate inviting people over and positively panic if anyone turns up unannounced.
- Put your life on hold. Your life can slip away as you wait until you have the energy to clear your clutter!
- Depress you. The stagnant energy of clutter pulls your energy down and can make you feel depressed.
- Create excess baggage. Lightening up physically can help you to lighten up emotionally and enjoy life much more.
- Dull your sensitivity and enjoyment of life. You can become a creature of habit and feel like you are living in a rut.
- Cause extra cleaning. It takes twice as long to clean a place that is cluttered.
- Make you disorganized. You may have difficulties finding your things, hence wasting, increasing your frustration, and stress levels.
- Be a health or fire hazard. When clutter starts to smell bad, become damp, or starts to disintegrate, it becomes unhygienic for you and also for your neighbors. Some types of clutter can also be a fire risk.
- Create undesirable symbology. Your decorations, pictures and photographs may be sending out the wrong frequencies for what you want in your life.
- Cost you financially. Calculate how much clutter you have per room and how it may be adding to your rent. Some people may also be paying premium rentals for commercial storage space elsewhere.
- Distract you from important things. The more clutter you have, the more your energy is tied up in mundane matters.
- Lead you to have less sex. After all, who is going to feel sexy and romantic when there is a mess staring right back at you? (This is my own reason).
I have since cleared out more than half my wardrobe and 30 other magazines I was never going to re-read. I feel lighter and more open to what life has to offer. I know now it is not just psychological.
What about you? Anything you need to be clearing out right now?
If you liked this post, please leave your comments on Facebook and Twitter and in the meantime, keep loving, live life fully and stay lovely! Dr. Martha Tara Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.ErosCoaching.com or email firstname.lastname@example.org.