Last 9 Things I Wish I Learned In Sex Ed—Part 4 of 4

By Dr. Martha Tara Lee. Posted on Feb 14th 2012.

What exactly is “normal,” “correct,” and “acceptable” when it comes to sex and sexuality?

Discount negative media portrayals of queer people. These stereotypical images are used to help move the plot along quickly. Instead view ALL humans as unique individuals with varied sexual desires, needs, and wants, who may choose to express their sexuality in ways that society may not consider “normal.” (But remember, there is no such thing as ‘normal.’)

Your relationship with sex and your sexuality will change, and sometimes that change is on a daily basis. For instance, for post-pregnancy women, some parts will change. Beyond accepting and understanding the changes of your body is to work with what you have.

It is common to experience some form of sexual anxiety in your life. Should you be distressed and your condition has not changed in six months, you may wish to seek professional support.

That’s it. All 36 things I wish I learned! Did you wish there were other items on this list? Be sure to read part 1, part 2 and part 3 here.

Dr Martha Tara Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia and beyond. For more, visit www.ErosCoaching.com.

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