How Do I Run My Own Self-Retreat?


How Do I Run My Own Self-Retreat?
Spend time with yourself for some major self-renewal and self-transformation!

Also try eating smaller servings than usual and eat more regularly if you need to, so that you are not digesting a big meal, which is more likely to make you tired and sleepy.

  • Be in the now. When you are all alone, you have to motivate yourself to keep to the original intentions, which you set for your retreat. By pre-arranging a schedule, there is less room for distractions. Without any people around there's no talking and your mind will become calmer. Every action such as eating, washing up and showering should be done mindfully.
  • Your self-retreat is supposed to be one where you give relaxed attention to your every movement, feeling and thought. Maintain a nice and easy pace and avoid all distractions and annoyances. When you are relaxed, everything will flow more naturally. The time you spend on creating a transformative environment for yourself will be worth it in the end. You will be better nurtured, supported, inspired and will come away feeling rejuvenated in body, mind and spirit.


    Dr Martha Tara Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia and beyond. For more, visit

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