How To Practice Mindfulness During Sex

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Have you heard that sex can be a form of meditation?

Have you heard the saying that sex can be a form of meditation? Annie Sprinkle, a performance artist and sexuality educator in the United States, combined the words masturbation and meditation to coin the word medabation. You, too, can practice mindful sex if you so desire. You may need to begin practicing these concepts of mindfulness outside of the bedroom, before being able to proceed to conscious sex.

First of all, what is meditation? Meditation happens simply when you acknowledge and observe whatever is happening — whether pleasant or unpleasant — in a relaxed manner. You probably already know that being relaxed but still noticing what is happening to and around you, so as to respond accordingly, are key steps to having good sex. 3 Ways To Squeeze In More Sex

 

These are the main components of being mindful:

  • Be in a natural state of mind

Your mind is relaxed and at peace. You are neither focusing too hard, nor trying to control your thoughts. There is no force or restriction imposed upon yourself. You are simply allowing your mind to be in its natural state of restfulness. How natural can you be if you are anxious about performance, or wrapped up in the inner dialogue in your head? 9 Things I Wish I Had Learned In Sex Ed

  • Be physically relaxed

It is not just about the mind. Your body should also be in a natural position and relaxed. Both the mind and the body should be comfortable. Bringing your attention gently to your breath is one way of centering yourself and allowing yourself to go into an even deeper state of relaxation.

  • Be aware

Being aware is not trying to create anything, or rejecting what is happening. It is observing what the mind and body are experiencing. What are you thinking? What are you aware of? Where is the mind's attention now? Inside? Or outside? It is not preventing thinking, but rather recognizing and acknowledging thinking whenever it arises. This acknowledging allows thoughts to enter, and then drift away.

  • Be in the moment

It is about paying attention to the present moment, and not getting lost in the thoughts about the past or being carried away by thoughts about the future. It's commonly called being in the moment or being in the present. Being truly in the moment — even somewhat engrossed in the now, where time seems to stand still — leads us to the next point of more easily letting go of expectations. How Do I Run My Own Self-Retreat?

This article was originally published at Eros Coaching. Reprinted with permission.
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Dr. Martha Tara Lee

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Dr Martha Tara Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia and beyond.

She is the host of the weekly radio show Eros Evolution on OMTimes Radio. Check out her first book Love, Sex and Everything In-Between! Join the Eros Coaching Facebook fan page for daily updates on the most happening news on sex and sexuality around the world, and more here! For more, visit www.ErosCoaching.com.

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