9 Things I Wish I Had Learned In Sex Ed

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What might a sexologist wish she learned about sex and sexuality growing up?

6. Sexuality education has very little to do with the sexual act, but is actually a lifelong process of acquiring information and forming attitudes, beliefs, and values of one's sexuality. It encompasses sexual development, sexual and reproductive health, interpersonal relationships, affection, intimacy, body image, and gender roles.

7. Our desire for sex is natural, but the act of sex itself is learned. Like much of everything we know, we acquire the knowledge, practice through trial and error, and perfect it so that it becomes a skill which we 'own.' Hence, the phrase: 'sexual skill.' Sex is a skill. You may still benefit from attending sexual workshops when you grow up.

8. Though it can be for some people, sex is not just a physical act. Sex is usually a physical, emotional, mental, and even spiritual act. Your intention has everything to do with what sex is like for you. 9 Sex Positions That Enhance Emotional Intimacy

9. Your skin is your biggest sex organ, and your brain is your most powerful sex organ. Use both, and let go of any guilt! Enjoy your body, enjoy being alive...and breathe! Give yourself permission to use your sexual imagination. Your sexual fantasies, desires, and dreams are valuable and integral parts of your sexuality. 3 Reasons Why Reality Is Better Than Fantasy

What else should be on this list? Part 2, part 3 and part 4 are now here!

 

Dr Martha Tara Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching and sex therapy. She is available to provide sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conduct sexual education workshops and speak at public events in Asia and beyond. For more, visit www.ErosCoaching.com.

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Location: Singapore, Singapore, Singapore
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