What Lies Beneath Emotional Infidelity?

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What Lies Beneath Emotional Infidelity? [EXPERT]
The only way to solve the problem is to understand what's underneath.

However, these patterns do not disappear just because you move into another relationship. You take your overt and covert forms of control with you into any relationship, as well as your underlying fears of rejection and engulfment that underlie these forms of control. These patterns do not generally show up early in a relationship or in an emotional or physical affair, but that does not mean they are gone. If your new relationship were to become your committed primary relationship, these patterns would resurface.

Why waste what might turn out to be a wonderful relationship by not dealing with your fears, controlling patterns and self-abandonment now? Instead of addictively looking to someone else to fill up your emptiness and take away your loneliness, why not learn to do this for yourself so that you can break your dysfunctional patterns and become the loving person that you are capable of being? Imagine the wonderful relationship you and your partner might have if both of you were to learn how to take responsibility for your own feelings and your own ability to loveShould I End This Relationship?

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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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