Also, there are people who are very good at APPEARING open. For example, many very narcissistic people have learned exactly what to say to appear very open. Almost anyone can get pulled in by a brilliant narcissist. We all want to feel seen and heard, and brilliant narcissists are often masters at looking like they see you and hear you. They can be very compelling —until the relationship deepens and their fears of not being in control of their narcissistic supply are activated.
This is why I generally suggest that people take their time getting to know someone. Someone who appears brilliant, sensitive and charming can be deeply needy, angry, demanding, unreliable and completely lacking in empathy. Only time will tell if you are dealing with a genuinely caring person or with someone who has learned to act caring to get what they want.
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Kiera and I discussed all of this. "Take your time Kiera. If you stay open and present, your feelings and inner knowing will let you know what the truth is about this man. Don't disregard any of your feelings. Attend to all of them."
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