Tips Help To You Re-Ignite Your Love & Intimacy

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Tips Help To You Re-Ignite Your Love & Intimacy
Have you lost the wonderful feelings of love & intimacy you had at the start of your relationship?

Terence learned that he had another option besides compliance or resistance. He learned to take responsibility for his own feelings by telling Wendy his truth when she yelled at him or blamed him. Instead of being a victim, he learned to stand up for himself and disengage when Wendy was angry. He learned to say, "I don't like being yelled at, and I don't like being with you when you are angry at me. Let me know when you are ready to be kind," and then go do his own Inner Bonding process, or do something fun for himself.

At first, Terence was reluctant to say this to Wendy. He didn't want to hurt her feelings by telling her his truth. He felt his truth was harsh and that he would be unloving if he said these things. However, when he was willing to take the risk of speaking his truth, he found that Wendy was actually grateful to receive the truth. Rather than getting angry and hurt, she appreciated his honesty, and told him that he was helping her to learn and grow by telling her his truth.

 

Terence ended up not leaving. Over a period of a year of practicing Inner Bonding, their relationship completely changed. In fact, he and Wendy have achieved a new level of love and intimacy in their relationship, beyond what they had when they first fell in love.

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This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission.
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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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