"Those of your friends who have really great relationships are people who are taking loving care of themselves and sharing their love with their partners. But I would guess that many of your friends are in codependent relationships — taking and caretaking — and if they are not yet having problems, they will likely have them in the future. Codependent relationships seem to work as long as each partner continues to play their assigned role, but if one of them grows and the other doesn't, then the system falls apart. This is why half the marriages end in divorce. And many of those who stay married, many have settled for a distant or conflicted relationship."
"I want to be in a loving relationship. What do I need to do?"
"You need to practice Inner Bonding so that you stop abandoning yourself by ignoring your feelings, judging yourself, and turning to addictions, including the addiction of making another responsible for your worth and lovability. Once you are taking loving care of yourself — not in order to get a partner, but because being loving is your highest priority — then it is likely that you will attract a loving and available partner. By practicing Inner Bonding and learning to take loving care of yourself, you raise your frequency and will attract someone of like frequency. As the law of attraction states, 'Like attracts like."
If you want to attract people at your common level of health rather than your common level of woundedness, then practice Inner Bonding!
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