You Attract Others At Your Common Level of Woundedness

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You Attract Others At Your Common Level of Woundedness
Are you attracting people who turn out to be controlling, needy or unavailable? Discover why!

"Those of your friends who have really great relationships are people who are taking loving care of themselves and sharing their love with their partners. But I would guess that many of your friends are in codependent relationships — taking and caretaking — and if they are not yet having problems, they will likely have them in the future. Codependent relationships seem to work as long as each partner continues to play their assigned role, but if one of them grows and the other doesn't, then the system falls apart. This is why half the marriages end in divorce. And many of those who stay married, many have settled for a distant or conflicted relationship."

"I want to be in a loving relationship. What do I need to do?"

 

"You need to practice Inner Bonding so that you stop abandoning yourself by ignoring your feelings, judging yourself, and turning to addictions, including the addiction of making another responsible for your worth and lovability. Once you are taking loving care of yourself — not in order to get a partner, but because being loving is your highest priority — then it is likely that you will attract a loving and available partner. By practicing Inner Bonding and learning to take loving care of yourself, you raise your frequency and will attract someone of like frequency. As the law of attraction states, 'Like attracts like."

If you want to attract people at your common level of health rather than your common level of woundedness, then practice Inner Bonding!

To begin learning how to love and connect with yourself so that you can connect with your partner and others, take advantage of our free Inner Bonding eCourse, receive Free Help, and take our 12-Week home study eCourse, "The Intimate Relationship Toolbox" – the first two weeks are free!

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This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission.
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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Depression
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