What To Do When You Can't Communicate

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What To Do When You Can't Communicate
Do you know a healthy way of behaving when you are stuck & unable to communicate with someone?

If you check in and you are open, the next thing to do might seem simple, but it's incredibly challenging for most of us. You need to 100% accept that, if you are stuck in communicating, the other person is not open, and that THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT. It's very hard for most of us to accept that we have no control over whether another person chooses to be open or closed, caring or uncaring, controlling or accepting.

When you 100% accept your lack of control over the other person's intention, and 100% accept that you can't resolve anything when one person is closed, then you can take loving action in your own behalf.

 

The healthy action you can take is to say, "We seem to be stuck in our communication right now. Let's try it again in half an hour." Notice you are not accusing the other person of being closed, which would be a form of control. You are merely stating that you are stuck.

The challenge now is to keep your heart open so that when the other person is open, you are too. This means that you walk away with love rather than anger, and tend inside to any sadness or heartache over the lack of connection with the other person.
If the other person never opens, then you need to accept that there is no way of resolving anything with that person, and you need to open to learning about how to take loving care of yourself in the face of that truth.

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This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission.
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