I'm sure that all of us feel more connected with some people than with others. Sometimes, we feel an instant connection with someone we just met. How can we account for this?
Psychologist Michael Newton, author of Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls, has conducted thousands of hypnosis sessions with individuals who, during the hypnosis sessions, recall their "between-life" state. Over and over, people recall being in soul groups with the same souls through eternity, and are often with these same souls in their current life. According to Newton's research, when you feel an instant or particularly deep connection with someone, it's because this person is in your soul group. You 'know' this person in ways that you don't know people who are not in your soul group.
In a recent phone session with Eve, she confessed that she was feeling guilty because she felt so much more connected with new new-born son, Joshua, than she ever felt with her 3-year-old daughter, Samantha.
"Of course, I love Samantha, but my connection with Joshua is like nothing I have ever experienced. I just never want to put him down. It's not that he is such a good baby. Actually, he is harder than Samantha was, because he is not a good sleeper and he wants to nurse all the time. I thought I could never love anyone as much as I love Samantha. I can't explain the feeling I have for Joshua. I just never thought I would feel this way about a second child."
"Eve, it sounds like you have a soul connection with Joshua."
"Yes, that's it! That's what it feels like! I've always envied Matthew's connection with Samantha. (Matthew is Eve's husband). I thought there was something wrong with me for not being as connected with her as he is. I guess he has a soul connection with Samantha, and I have it with Joshua. So, it's not something I need to feel guilty about?"
"Of course not. Soul connections are wonderful! But you can't make them happen. They are either there or they aren't. And they don't mean that things will be easy. Sometimes, people who are soul-connected have many challenges."
Eve was very relieved to hear that it is okay to feel more connected to Joshua than to Samantha. It doesn't mean that she loves Joshua more than Samantha. It just means that on a soul level, there is a deeper sense of recognition.
One of the important things about soul connections is to not think that just because someone seems to be your "soul mate," that this is a relationship made in heaven. Often, soul connections create huge challenges in our lives. It may be these deeper connections that trigger our control issues, coming from our fears of rejection and fears of engulfment. Keep Reading...
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