How To Save Your Marriage When You Have Children

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How To Save Your Marriage When You Have Children
If you have children and are thinking of getting a divorce, this article if for you.

Research indicates that, unless there is violence in the home, children are generally better off being raised by an intact family. Whenever clients who have children call to work with me on their marriage, I always encourage them to do all they can to save their marriage.

Leah is a good example of a woman who, on the verge of divorce with four young children, decided to do her Inner Bonding work to save her marriage — and succeed beyond what she thought was possible.

Leah first consulted with me because she was completely turned off to her husband, Ronald. Many of their battles had to do with Ronald getting angry at their lack of a sex life. Leah had given in for years, but was no longer willing to have sex without being emotionally connected with Ronald.

As I listen to Leah talking about her problems with her husband, I could feel inside that Ronald was a good person, as was Leah. They were off track because each of them was making the other responsible for their feelings.

Leah blamed Ronald for her unhappiness, claiming that his anger and neediness was the cause of their problems. According to Leah, Ronald blamed Leah for his unhappiness, claiming that her coldness, anger, and sexual withdrawal were the cause of their problems. It was apparent that both Leah and Ronald had their eyes on the other, with little understanding of the fact that each of them was abandoning themselves to the other.

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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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Credentials: PhD
Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Depression
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