Resolving a Lack of Closure in a Relationship

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Resolving a Lack of Closure in a Relationship
Do you feel stuck due to a lack of closure regarding a relationship? Discover how to change this.

You might want to explore what you are telling yourself that is causing you continued pain. Are you taking the leaving personally? Are you telling yourself you've done something wrong? Certainly you might still be feeling the loneliness and heartbreak of the loss, but I'm also hearing hurt feelings, and this is what you need to explore.

To move into your peace, you need to fully embrace your loneliness, heartbreak and helplessness with deep compassion for yourself. Is focusing on her lack of closure protecting you from feeling your deeper core feelings from the loss? These are some of the things you need to explore to be able to move beyond the hurt and into peace and gratitude.

 

This is the broader perspective you are asking for — to explore and take full responsibility for all your own feelings rather than using the lack of closure as a way out of doing your own inner work.

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This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission.
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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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