Leaving a relationship — other than an abusive relationship — before discovering the inner fears and beliefs that led you to the relationship in the first place, is essentially a waste of time. You will continue to choose the same kind of person over and over — even if that is not apparent at first — until you heal the underlying issues that led you to choose this person in the first place.
All of us put out a frequency that comes from our level of woundedness or health. If you tune your radio dial to a particular station, you will get that station because you have tuned into the frequency of that station. Likewise, your frequency attracts a like frequency. Woundedness has a low frequency, while emotional health has a high frequency. A loving person with a high frequency will not be attracted to a controlling or needy person with a low frequency.
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