Relationships: Cheating

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Relationships: Cheating
Why do people cheat? Discover the underlying reasons for cheating or openly having an affair.
  • They are addicted to getting filled up and getting their sense of worth through sex or conquest. They are needy people who emotionally abandon themselves and use sex or power to fill the inner black hole that comes from their self-abandonment. These people generally have multiple affairs.
     
  • They are in a long-term marriage that they don't want to leave, but the marriage is completely unfulfilling. These people do not have multiple affairs, but have a committed relationship with another person while staying married. Their partners generally know about it. Because they are honest about it, technically this isn't considered cheating, nor are the partners necessarily emotionally unhealthy.

Most people in the first group are unwilling to do the inner work necessary to fill their own inner emptiness. Their cheating is addictive, and it is likely that they are also participating in other addictions to fill their emptiness — smoking, drinking, drugs, spending, gambling, food, work, TV and so on. Until they decide to learn how to love themselves and take responsibility for their own feelings, it is unlikely that they will stop cheating.

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This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission.
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