Relationships: The Challenge of Disengaging

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Relationships: The Challenge of Disengaging
Are you reactive in conflict with people who are important to you & often end up feeling miserable?

In order to be willing to feel these painful feelings you need to know exactly how to manage them. Actually, managing them as an adult is quite easy.

  1.     Acknowledge the feelings, embracing them with deep compassion.
  2.     Sit with the feelings, keeping them company for a few minutes, the way you would with a child who is hurting.
  3.     Once your inner child feels heard and comforted, consciously release the feelings to Spirit, asking for them to be replaced with love and peace.


The whole process usually takes less than 10 minutes. While feelings of loneliness, heartache and helplessness over others were completely unmanageable as children, now they are easy to manage when you know how — and when you being loving adult who wants to take responsibility for your feelings.

Once you learn to manage your feelings of loneliness and helplessness over others, and once you accept your total lack of control over others feelings, thoughts and actions, you will find that you can easily disengage with love.

Try it! You will be deeply gratified by taking this loving action.

To begin learning how to love and connect with yourself so that you can connect with your partner and others, take advantage of our free Inner Bonding eCourse, receive Free Help, and take our 12-Week home study eCourse, "The Intimate Relationship Toolbox" – the first two weeks are free!

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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

Location: Pacific Palisades, CA
Credentials: PhD
Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Depression
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