On the other hand, in my session with Sydney, I felt deep empathy and compassion for her heartbreak over the loss of her relationship. Her boyfriend had suddenly left her with no warning, and she was shocked and grieved. However, her intent was to learn rather than to get me to sympathize with her. Through her tears, she wanted to understand how she could have created this situation again in her life. I was able to "grok" her — to get completely with her because, not only was she open to her heartbreak, she was also open to learning about how she could take care of herself and what she could learn from the situation.
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