It took me a long time to learn this. For much of my adult life, until Inner Bonding, I had no idea that it was my responsibility to open to Spirit for my dependable Source of Love.
Not that it isn't wonderful when others are loving to us. I've often said that the sharing of love is the highest experience of life. But when you are needy and dependent on another for your dependable source of love, you will never feel the safety and fullness that comes from opening to THE dependable Source of Love.
When you shift your intent from getting love from another to being loving to yourself and others, your heart opens to the Love that is always here for you. The moment your intent is to be loving, the Love that is God fills you with the light of love that is infinitely more powerful than anything you could ever get from another.
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