Most people do one of three things when someone is trying to control them:
• They give in
• They resist
• They try to control back
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If you are trying to control someone with your explaining or defending, they are likely to resist or try to control back with their own anger, blame, explaining or defending. Then each of you is trying to get the other to give in. But even if one of you does give in, the energy between you is strained rather than loving. You might win the war but lose the love.
When each person opens his or her heart to learning and caring and kindness, then whatever the issue is can get resolved. Resolution occurs only when you drop your intent to control and move into an intent to learn and love.
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