How To Tell If It's Romance Or Friendship

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How To Tell If It's Romance Or Friendship [EXPERT]
Some relationships are ambiguous. Dr. Margaret Paul can help you sort it out.

James, in his mid-30s, was ready to meet his life partner, get married and have children. After dating many women, he met Cindy.

"She is really beautiful, although I'm not sure she's my type. But I think she is perfect for me. We have the same interests, the same values, we go to the same church and we both want children. My friends who meet her think she's dynamite."

"But … ?" I could hear hesitation in his voice during our phone counseling session.

"I don't know. There doesn't seem to be a spark and I don't miss her when I'm not with her. In fact, I rarely think about her when I'm not with her. And our conversation doesn't seem to flow easily. We run out of things to talk about. Maybe the spark will grow. Does that ever happen?"

"Why not spend a little more time with her and see how you feel?"

It became apparent within a few months that the spark was not going to grow and the conversation was not going to flow. James still did not look forward to seeing Cindy.

"James, it doesn't seem that this relationship is going to become what you want it to be. Perhaps it's time to move on."

But James was afraid of ending up alone, afraid he would not meet anyone as sweet as Cindy. He ended up staying in the relationship with her for two years before finding the courage to leave.

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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Depression
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