"Peggy, please go inside and ask your Inner Child if she feels loved by you when you give yourself up to please James and you do not let her be herself." "No, she doesn't feel loved at all! She hates it when I don't take care of her and take care of him instead." "So, do you think it is possible that even if you found out that James doesn't love you, that loving yourself would make things okay for you?" "Yes!"
Peggy started to practice Inner Bonding and learned to take care of herself around James. She stopped being available for him to dump his anxiety onto her and made love only when she felt like it. She received a lot of support from the Inner Bonding membership community, which helped her stay strong in her self-care.
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At first James was angry, but when he discovered that his anger didn't get him anywhere, he became interested in learning Inner Bonding and started to take better care of himself. Instead of discovering that she had to give herself up to be loved by James, Peggy discovered that loving herself worked wonders in their marriage! 5 Secrets Of Happily Married Couples
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