I Want To Be Married – What Am I Doing Wrong?

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I Want To Be Married – What Am I Doing Wrong?
Discover one of the major reasons for not finding your partner.

In order for Jessica to sustain a healthy relationship, she needed to learn to manage the pain of rejection. We all need to learn to manage the loneliness and heartache of rejection in order to stay open in a relationship. No matter how good a relationship, there is always going to be rejection. There is no such thing as a relationship where you never feel rejected.

In order to learn to manage the pain of rejection so that she would no longer give herself up, Jessica needed to practice Inner Bonding so that she would stop abandoning herself in the face of her fear of rejection. She needed to develop a loving Adult self who could speak up for her and help her to not take rejection personally, as well as who could bring in her higher power to comfort the heartache. Jessica needed to practice Inner Bonding until she was strong enough to love, which means strong enough to keep her heart open in the face of rejection, and strong enough to be willing to lose the other person rather than lose herself.

 

Jessica did practice Inner Bonding on a daily basis. She gradually learned to speak up for herself and not take rejection personally. As a result, her fear of rejection diminished to the point where she was no longer willing to give herself up or withdraw in the face of a man's controlling, rejecting behavior.

Jessica is now happily married and looking forward to starting the family she always wanted.

To begin learning how to love and connect with yourself so that you can connect with your partner and others, take advantage of our free Inner Bonding eCourse, receive Free Help, and take our 12-Week eCourse, “The Intimate Relationship Toolbox” – the first two weeks are free!

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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Depression
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