"I Lose Myself Around Others"

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"I Lose Myself Around Others"
Discover why you may be fine alone but you lose yourself in relationships.

• Learn to connect with a spiritual source of truth so that you can begin to heal these beliefs.

• Through your spiritual connection, begin to see and lovingly define your your true self. When you truly see the beauty of your essence, you will know that you do not have to give yourself up to be loved.

 

• Come into truth about what you can and cannot control. What if you 100% accepted that you cannot control others' feelings about you – no matter how much you give yourself up?
In order to heal and no longer give yourself up in relationships, you need to be prepared to fully accept your lack of control over others' feelings about you. While you can influence others' feelings, you cannot control them, and all the things you do to try to control them – such as giving yourself up – eventually backfire. Others can feel the energy and the pull of inauthenticity, and will often do the opposite of what you want – which is to resist your control. No one likes to be controlled, and often, when someone feels that the other person is giving themselves up, they feel controlled by it and will resist.

Would you really want to end up in a relationship where you can't be yourself? Do you really want to have to work that hard, and end up losing yourself, to try to attract another person?

You will stop doing this when you get to know and value your essence, and you can do this only through seeing yourself through the eyes of your spiritual Guidance. Your programmed mind decided a long time ago that you are not good enough, and as long as you believe this lie, you will continue to lose yourself to try to control.

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This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission.
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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? To begin to learn Inner Bonding, take our FREE Inner Bonding course. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

Location: Pacific Palisades, CA
Credentials: PhD
Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Depression
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