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To Receive Love, First Love And Heal Yourself

Accept And Heal Your Past For Love
Love, Self

Does receiving love seem impossible? There's hope in healing.

Lindsay wrote the following during one of my webinars:

"I can't receive love, not physically; not even a kiss or stroke of kindness. I was never told, 'You're awesome, great job, you're beautiful, or you can do anything.' Therefore, it's hard for me to receive love and feel worthy."

Lindsay, it is very hard to grow up without love. You are certainly not alone in this experience. Growing up without any physical affection or emotional support is a sad and lonely thing. However, your conclusion — that you can't receive love because you weren't loved — is false. I work with many people who were not loved, or who were very badly abused, and now they are capable of giving and receiving love.

The problem right now is that you see yourself as a victim of your childhood. You believe that your current inability to receive love and feel worthy is caused by what your childhood caregivers did, rather than by how you are currently treating yourself. While your low self-worth started as a child, the fact that it continues now is because of your own self-abandonment.

You have the opportunity right now to learn to love and value the little child within you who is desperate for love — for your love. You will not feel worthy of love, nor be able to give and receive love from others, until you decide to be the loving parent to yourself that you never had.

You will not be able to trust others' love until you become a trustworthy loving adult to the little girl within you. Only when you learn to love and value yourself will you be able to open your heart to others and risk being hurt. Keep Reading...

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This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission from the author.

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