To Receive Love, First Love And Heal Yourself

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Accept And Heal Your Past For Love
Does receiving love seem impossible? There's hope in healing.

Lindsay wrote the following during one of my webinars:

"I can't receive love, not physically; not even a kiss or stroke of kindness. I was never told, 'You're awesome, great job, you're beautiful, or you can do anything.' Therefore, it's hard for me to receive love and feel worthy."

Lindsay, it is very hard to grow up without love. You are certainly not alone in this experience. Growing up without any physical affection or emotional support is a sad and lonely thing. However, your conclusion — that you can't receive love because you weren't loved — is false. I work with many people who were not loved, or who were very badly abused, and now they are capable of giving and receiving love.

The problem right now is that you see yourself as a victim of your childhood. You believe that your current inability to receive love and feel worthy is caused by what your childhood caregivers did, rather than by how you are currently treating yourself. While your low self-worth started as a child, the fact that it continues now is because of your own self-abandonment.

You have the opportunity right now to learn to love and value the little child within you who is desperate for love — for your love. You will not feel worthy of love, nor be able to give and receive love from others, until you decide to be the loving parent to yourself that you never had.

You will not be able to trust others' love until you become a trustworthy loving adult to the little girl within you. Only when you learn to love and value yourself will you be able to open your heart to others and risk being hurt. Keep Reading...

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This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission.
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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Depression
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