Yet, within a short time of moving into a committed relationship, they stopped learning and started controlling. Instead of giving and sharing, they are now trying to get something from each other. They get stuck in a system where they each want control over getting what they want from the other person - understanding, acceptance, time, attention, approval, affection, or sex. As soon as they start to try to have control over getting what they want, they are likely to get into power struggles, as one or both resist being controlled, or one continually gives in and then feels used and resentful.
When each partner learns how to take responsibility for their own feelings of worth and wellbeing, and they let go of trying to control the other while opening learning about themselves and each other, they regain their ability to communicate. They don't even need to learn how to communicate! Good communication comes naturally when the intent of the communication is to learn rather than to control.
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