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Have You Fallen Out of Love With Your Partner?

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Have You Fallen Out of Love With Your Partner?
Are you contemplating leaving your partner because you have fallen out of love? Read this first!

After two years of marriage, when they were on the verge of divorce, they consulted with me. I could see right away that these two people really did love each other, but that they thought they had fallen out of love due to their codependent relationship system.
"The two of you will not be able to feel in love with each other until you each fall in love with yourself," I told them in our first Skype session. "Right now each of you are deeply abandoning yourselves and expecting the other person to fill you and meet your needs. Don, you blame Megan for your feelings of aloneness and emptiness, and Megan you resent Don for not appreciating all you do for him. Neither of you are taking any responsibility for your own feelings. But, you are perfect for each other—if you use these issues to learn rather than run away and hope it will be better in a different relationship. Which it won't be. You will take your self-abandonment with you and eventually create the same system or a similar system. I suggest you stay together and both work on learning to love yourselves rather than abandon yourselves."

Don and Megan did stay together. They both learned and practiced Inner Bonding, and even came to an Inner Bonding 5-day intensive together. They are so glad they did.
"We have found our love for each other," Don happily stated in our last session. I really love who Megan is and I also feel her love for who I am, but we couldn't really see each other and share our love when we were so busy abandoning ourselves. It feels so great to not feel empty and needy!" Megan smilingly agreed.

Megan and Don both had the courage to look within, to discover and learn to love and value themselves so they could love and value each other. They are fortunate that both of them were willing to learn, but even if one person in a partnership does their inner work, the entire system can change. So if your partner is not interested, don't let that stop you from learning to love yourself!

To begin learning how to love and connect with yourself so that you can connect with your partner and others, take advantage of our free Inner Bonding eCourse, receive Free Help, and take our 12-Week home study eCourse, "The Intimate Relationship Toolbox" – the first two weeks are free!

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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

Location: Pacific Palisades, CA
Credentials: PhD
Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Depression
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