As the one who is being judged, you need to stop being a reactor and start speaking up for yourself. You might feel terrific if, instead of complying or resisting, you were to say something like, "I'm not available to being judged by you. When you are ready to be accepting and open so we can discuss this, let me know. Meanwhile, I'm going to (read a book, take a walk, go out with a friend, etc.)." We each train people how to treat us, and by no longer being reactive to being judged and instead taking loving care of yourself, you might find that your partner gives up pointing out your flaws!
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