Is it kind to yourself to allow yourself to dwell for a single moment on thoughts that scare you, that make you feel anxious, depressed, angry, jealous, shamed or guilty? You will not be able to be an instrument of love on the planet and fulfill your soul's journey until you start with loving yourself.
If you practice staying in Step One of Inner Bonding—being present in your body, willing to feel your feelings and take loving responsibility for them, then the moment you feel anything other than peace inside you can immediately notice your unloving thought and change it to a true, kind thought - not to manifest anything but only for the sake of evolving in love.
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Learning to be loving to yourself rather than abandon yourself with negativity, judgments, addictions or making others responsible for your feelings, is the path to loving others for the sake of love—without any agenda. It is only when you are loving yourself that you don't need love from others and can then unconditionally share your love.
When you detach "love" from outcomes, then the outcome is joy!
To begin learning how to love and connect with yourself so that you can connect with your partner and others, take advantage of our free Inner Bonding eCourse, receive Free Help, and take our 12-Week home study eCourse, "The Intimate Relationship Toolbox" – the first two weeks are free!
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