Do You Isolate?

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Do You Isolate?
If you tend to isolate, do you believe that isolating protects you from getting hurt?

• You need to reach a point in your life where you know that being open-hearted and loving with yourself and others is why you are on the planet, and that there is no way of avoiding the loneliness and heartbreak of loving someone who is not open-hearted with you. This is why learning to manage the very challenging feeling of loneliness and heartbreak — and your helplessness over others' choices — is so important. Without knowing how to do this, you will likely be too afraid to love.

This is where the Six Steps of Inner Bonding come in. Practicing Inner Bonding is what will heal the fears and false beliefs that keep you isolated and afraid, by developing your loving adult self, who is capable of taking loving care of yourself in the face of others' unloving behavior.

 

This is what will free you from isolation.

It takes great courage to learn how to take loving care of yourself — to speak your truth and take loving action in your own behalf, risking others' disapproval and rejection rather than giving yourself up to control how others feel about you, or isolating to avoid the challenge.

Do you have the courage to open your heart and learn how to love yourself? Do you have the courage to open your heart to others and risk rejection or loss? No one can ever make it "safe" for you to do this; truly loving is, in a sense, one of the least safe things we do on the planet. It is also the most fulfilling and joyful experience we ever have. 

To begin learning how to love and connect with yourself so that you can connect with your partner and others, take advantage of our free Inner Bonding eCourse, receive Free Help, and take our 12-Week home study eCourse, "The Intimate Relationship Toolbox" – the first two weeks are free!

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This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission.
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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Depression
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