Is Divorce The Answer For You?

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Is Divorce The Answer For You?
There are many reasons for divorce. Here is a list of the most common.

I've worked with individuals and couples for the last 44 years. During this time I’ve had two very different experiences regarding people who have divorced:

• One group of people are happy that they finally left a marriage where they were very unhappy. They feel that they have their life back, and sometimes even their health back. They feel relief and freedom and are proud of themselves that they finally got themselves out of a bad situation.

• The other group has huge regrets. They look back and see that, if they had hung in and worked on themselves, they could likely have created a loving relationship. They are disillusioned with their experience of dating, and realize that their ex is a good and caring person. Most of the time their ex has moved on and is in another relationship.

When is Divorce the Answer for you?

• You are married to a drinking alcoholic, a drug addict or a compulsive gambler who has no intention of healing.

• You are married to a physically or emotionally abusive person who has no intention of healing.

• You are married to a sex addict who constantly demands sex from you, and/or who has multiple affairs, and who has no intention to heal.

• You are married to someone who refuses to carry his or her own weight and is draining you financially, and is unwilling to do the inner work necessary to heal. Keep reading...
 

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This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission.
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Dr. Margaret Paul

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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

Location: Pacific Palisades, CA
Credentials: PhD
Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Depression
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