The Circle of Love: The Highest Experience in Life

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The Circle of Love: The Highest Experience in Life
A circle of love is being together with open hearts and is the most wonderful experience in life!

A circle of love occurs when two or more people are together with completely open hearts — open with their Self, with each other and with Spirit. When we are deeply connected with our core Self and with the love and sustenance of Spirit, and we are sharing our Self and love with others— and they are doing the same - a circle of love occurs. A circle of love is, without a doubt, the highest experience in life.

Yet most people in relationships rarely, if ever, experience a circle of love. This is because when the intent is to protect against pain rather than to learn about love, the heart is closed— closed to Self, closed to others, and closed to Spirit.

A circle of love is a profound experience — well worth working toward. It's what we all yearn for in our souls. Fun, joy, intimacy and creativity are some of the results of the circle of love. So, what can you do to create more circles of love in your life?

The major thing you can do is to consistently practice the Six Steps of Inner Bonding. The steps are designed to create and support your connection with your Self and with Spirit, while healing the fears and false beliefs of the wounded self that are in the way of this connection. By practicing these steps throughout the day, healing will occur and connection will consistently deepen. It is only when you have established a circle of love within yourself and with Spirit that you can extend this circle out to others. Without the inner and spiritual connection, any "love" you share with others isn't really love — it's a pull for love, attention and approval.

The energy of love comes from Spirit, and can then be shared with others. If you are not connected with Spirit, then you are not aware of receiving the love and sustenance of Spirit. When you are not aware of receiving this, you do not feel the fullness of it inside. Instead, you feel empty and alone and hope to get love from others to fill the emptiness.

You might have learned to give "love" to get love, but what you are really doing is trying to control the other person into giving you what you think you need to feel safe and lovable. You will never feel the incredible joy of a circle of love when your intent is to get love from others rather than from Spirit.

What could possibly be more important in life that being able to share a circle of love? Nothing else in life compares to this ultimate experience. While we certainly need to spend time creating financial security and physical health, and taking care of the everyday tasks of life, be sure to place your Inner Bonding practice very high on your priority list.

Inner Bonding really does work to create the foundation for the circle of love — the essential inner and spiritual connection. Learning to love our Self and connect with Spirit is not the ultimate goal of Inner Bonding - it is the foundation necessary to create the circle of love.

This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission.
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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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