It takes a lot of practice for many people to even notice their feelings. You may have responded to the knot in your stomach from your wounded self with your protective behavior for so long that you don't even consciously know the knot is there. Learning to stay tuned into your own body and compassionately honor your own feelings is the first part of the challenge in speaking up for yourself. You cannot speak up when you are unaware that there is something to speak up for.
This is why it is so important to practice being in Step One of Inner Bonding all day - staying tuned into your feelings. For your inner child – the feeling part of you - to feel loved by you rather than abandoned by you, you need to know what you feel. Then you can take loving care of yourself in the face of others' subtle or overt unloving behavior.
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