Can You Love Others?

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Can You Love Others?
What is loving to yourself and others is not always clear - consider these questions.

• You have a family member who is irresponsible regarding money, and you know this person will run out and expect you to take care of him or her.

• You have a child who refuses to go to college or get a job. Your child just wants to stay home and play video games, and expects you to continue to take care of him or her.

 

• Other___________________________.

In these kinds of situations, you need to go inside and decide what is in your own highest good and the highest good of the other person. Is it in your highest good to just accept the situation, or is it in your highest good to leave the person or ask them to leave? Is it in your highest good to continue to support someone who refuses to take care of themselves, or is it in your highest good to let go of the relationship, even if the person ends up on the street or commits suicide?

Obviously, these are hard questions to answer, and there is never one right answer. The answer lies in your own heart regarding what you can live with and what you can’t live with - what is truly in your highest good and the highest good of all.

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This article was originally published at Inner Bonding . Reprinted with permission.
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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Depression
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