Avoiding Your Pain Cuts Off Your Passion


Avoiding Your Pain Cuts Off Your Passion
Both pain and passion reside in your heart. You can’t cut off pain without cutting off passion.
  • I feel bad about myself, inadequate, like there is always something wrong with me.
  • I feel depressed a lot.
  • I feel anxious a lot.
  • I feel alone and abandoned.
  • I feel despair. I don't think things will ever get better.
  • I feel angry and resentful.
  • I feel empty inside.
  • I feel used or abused.
  • I feel victimized.
  • I feel disconnected from myself, my spiritual Guidance and others.
  • Other_______________________________________________

Is it worth it to protect against your loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, grief, sadness, sorrow or helplessness over others?

The truth is that the your wounded feelings go on and on when you protect against your core painful feelings, while when you compassionately embrace your painful core feelings with compassion, gentleness and tenderness toward yourself, they move through you so you can again experience your joy, aliveness, passion for life and connection with loved ones.

Learn the powerful Inner Bonding® process that enables you to let go of protective, controlling, self-abandoning behavior and open to the peace, joy, passion and sharing love that we all want.

To begin learning how to love and connect with yourself so that you can connect with your partner and others, take advantage of our free Inner Bonding eCourse, receive Free Help, and take our 12-Week eCourse, “The Intimate Relationship Toolbox” – the first two weeks are free!

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Dr. Margaret Paul


Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal your pain and discover your joy? Take our FREE Inner Bonding course, and click here for a FREE CD/DVD relationship offer. Visit our website at innerbonding.com for more articles and help, as well as our Facebook Page. Phone and Skype sessions available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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Credentials: PhD
Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Depression
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