If your partner is open, this dialogue can continue until it feels complete to both of you. Or, if your partner does not want to hear why you were late without calling, you need to let go of getting him or her to hear you and lovingly disengage. That's the hard part!
Speaking Your Truth and Lovingly Disengaging
There are times when, even if you are open to learning and really want to understand the other, he or she is just intent on trying to get you to change. When this is the case, you might want to speak your truth and lovingly disengage. This looks like saying something like: "I'd love to continue talking about this when you are open to listening to me and understanding why I was late without calling," and then walking away, keeping your heart open. This means that you are not withdrawing in anger or blame. You are staying in compassion for yourself and the other person, so that if he or she opens, you have no residue of hurt, anger or blame.
Resolution occurs when both people are open to learning and listening without a controlling agenda. True listening is an act of giving with no expectation of anything in return. It is a kind and loving way to interact with someone you care about. It is a great gift.
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