I need to be fully present with compassion for my own core feelings of loneliness and heartache.
I need to completely and compassionately accept my lack of control — my helplessness — over another.
I need to be in connection with my spiritual Guidance to know what is loving to me in the particular situation — to actively listen, to reach out to sooth them, to be with them and just listen, to lovingly speak my truth, and/or to lovingly disengage.
- I need to be fully willing to take the loving action in my own behalf, rather than try to influence the other person in any way.
None of this is easy, and it generally takes a lot of practice to move beyond reactivity and into loving action for yourself and with others.
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